Friday, March 04, 2016

Choices: Deliver or Make Excuses




Blogging has exposed me to different kind of people. While I have met sincere people who eventually became my friends, there are those who reveal their true colors as time passes by. I have learned to keep reminding myself that some people were just raised differently.


"To give real service, 
you must add something which cannot be bought or measured with money, 
and that is sincerity and integrity." Douglas Adams


A lot of people owe me -- in cash and in kind. Some have the decency to acknowledge and others simply ignore. I admire the honesty of the few. Those who tell the truth instead of making up excuses. You'd be surprised by the fanciness beyond belief of the excuses crafted by some. And the lies they weave just to save their asses. Who doesn't hate liars?! I'd rather you tell me why you can't than tell me bullshit. I value honesty. Recent experience with someone who I thought knows how to conduct business in a professional manner turned out to be a one big disappointment. And though I know I'm capable of running after this person to a point where this person will regret treating me this way, I chose the high road. I've got more sensible things to do than waste my time on a sloth.


integrity. the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; 
moral uprightness and sincerity.


I'm not the type who uses my facebook status to publicly shame someone. I simply write them off my life. After all, who needs a person who says one thing yet does another that destroys trust? Keeping promises affects your integrity. Lies are exposed. 

Some people wonder why there are still in deep shit. May be it's about time you assess yourself. Real success is not achieve by cutting corners. You've got to work hard. Work fair. 



38 comments:

  1. I feel you. There are really people who are not trustworthy. They'll do anything for money.

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  2. Agree on this. Either you can or you can't. If you can't, simply say so. Meron ka pala neto sis. Hahaha!

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  3. I've got to agree with this. Sometimes, it's just so tempting to call them out publicly, but in the end, it only leaves us feeling satisfied temporarily. I learned from your advise and hopefully I could apply it to whenever I feel tempted to post a Facebook status about someone I dislike or disagree with. :D

    Mimi | Chasing Bleu

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  4. But sometimes we just can't help but rant, right? I do that on twitter though just to release some steam :)

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  5. I don't do social media humiliation too, I do that in person haha... (I'm actually serious)

    One of the things that I find it real hard to do is owing or lending people money. I just can't, I believe it betrays trust, destroy relationships, because many people are irresponsible when it's payback time.

    I admire you though for taking the high road. I think it's a lot harder and takes so much more discipline than fighting back.

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  6. Definitely. I get the urge to unfollow people who do social shaming online, 'cause frankly, how immature can these people be, right? Good for you for choosing to do what's right. I rant sometimes, especially during situations where it's pure stupidity and immaturity that caused it, but I do that on my blog or on my journal. It's something I know I should keep personal.

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  7. I'm a bit guilty on social media humiliation (especially these past few weeks). This line made me do the humiliation or maybe I'm just stating some facts.

    "You'd be surprised by the fanciness beyond belief of the excuses crafted by some. And the lies they weave just to save their asses"

    That feeling when someone is constantly defending their mistakes and underestimating the power of evidences. Hehe I guess that's the reason why I did FB status thingy. I honestly wanted to talk to that person to fix things up, but I believe that "someone" is not open for advises.

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    1. Today, I took the chance and just sent that person a private message. However, the person is not replying at all (seen-zoned) hehe. That person just changed status to "okay". Now I don't know whether that okay is a sarcastic okay or a "okay, you're right." Hehehe

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    2. The person I'm talking about in this article has been ingnoring me since December. The fb messages I sent her have "seen" status but no replies and she's super sinungaling saying she replied and I didn't acknowledge the reply :( I was really on the brink of public shaming her.

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    3. I considered na lang na she's much older than me kse and I have to respect her because of her age parang auntie ko na.

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  8. Ah these people are really part of our society and we can do nothing about their existence but I agree with you, I also prefer to ignore them rather than choosing to humiliate them in public! Although i must say that sometimes it is really tempting talaga to throw a rant haha but then you must learn how to control your temper

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    1. I rant na lang sa twitter pag di na mapigilan hahaha

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  9. i feel you,. when i was working a lot of my so called friends at the time borrowed money from me and guess what? they never paid it back EVER. its really tempting to call them out especially when you badly needed the money. but then i keep my peace and just forget them. Its nice to know their true colors for just a petty amount. good thing now they cant approach me anymore and you know who they are inside out.

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    1. And somehow bumabalik naman sa atin yung money na pinahiram na ayaw na bayaran sa ibang paraan. :)

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  10. freedom in social media is used abusively by some. But yeah, put yourself in a level you deserve. Posts in social media are most of the time filtered (i guess) because that's the 'other world' where people what and how they want to be seen.

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  11. 100 agree with you! I actually believe that making excuses is generally an awful option, and do your best not to offer him/her as a justification for their actions.

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  12. Personally speaking, I know I tend to have anger management issues but as much as possible I dont wanna call them out on social media. :O I usually just talk to them directly. But yeah, everyone has their ways of dealing with this. :)

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  13. Hahaha. Ms. Roselle, I feel you... i don't like people who doesnt value honesty ang integrity. As much as I wanted to rant and call their attention, I won't bec I was advised not to engage na lang...

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  14. Hahaha. Ms. Roselle, I feel you... i don't like people who doesnt value honesty ang integrity. As much as I wanted to rant and call their attention, I won't bec I was advised not to engage na lang...

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  15. I agree...always prefer ppl being frank and upfront however outspoken it might be rather than talking behind my back

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  16. Dear Roselle,

    Bloggosphere is not so beautiful as other paint it. There can be a lot of "ugly" people trying to deceive bloggers in to do some mean schemes. But there is also good honest people who are really friendly and support each other. Find your tribe, stick with it. :)

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  17. I commend you for taking the "high road" even though some don't deserve it. I see people publicly shaming others on Facebook and it's ugly, why do you need to get others involved who quite frankly have nothing to do with it, it's between two people not the entire list of Facebook friends!

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  18. This post is great. Daydreaming vs. Action. So lovely! Thank you

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  19. I can relate to this so much.. i always trust people because i naively think (as i start from myself and what would i do) that everyone is deep down a good person. So that's how people screw me over. I do the same as you - just go away and cut them out from my life, because, unlike them, i'm classy.

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  20. Nice article. I enjoyed the image you have as your intro. Very eye catching. The tips in the article are a great way to release people from your life who causes disruptions. I always delete people who I feel hurt me in some way.

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  21. Sometimes we can't just escape from them!😁

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  22. I firmly believe you should treat others how you would want to be treated. I dislike dishonest people and tend to not associate with them.

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  23. Ahh..Don't you just love the cathartic effect writing provides in your life. ;) Blogging and writing on my actual journal has been effective ways for me to let my emotions out. Just like you, I don't like stressing myself too much by confronting idiots whether online or in real life. I'm old enough for folkbeliefs, but I like the concept of karma, and how you should let fate take its course both for you and the people around you. Best of luck in the future. Go girl!

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  24. I agree with how you say that you don't cut off people publicly but rather just stop being with them. You don't need the negativity at all!

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  25. In my almost three years of blogging, I still have to learn so many things to develop myself and my writing. My mantra is "you really can't please everyone" and I dread the days when I get publicly humiliated. I don't think I'd have the guts to do that to anyone else unless it will involve the people I love.

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  26. Many people out there, tend to make excuses for themselves and one major aspect is procrastination. I have been a victim of it myself and as a blogger we have all been through it, but making excuses for it won't solve any of the matter. Anyway, that's a great post and any blogger that faced this issue of procrastination in their career, or is still facing it should take a moments of reflection. great post! :)

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  27. There are a lot of idiots out there. I love that you've put "integrity" in this blog post. Now I finally can say what I mean when I have these kind of arguments or problems with people who just aren't that! Really good post which is sometimes just necessary :)
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  28. Roselle,

    One thing about being a caring person is that a caring person often is the one who feels hurt.

    I still do, as there are people who truly are disappointing, to say the least. As I age, I came to realize that people are people. It's not that i do not trust anyone, but having a fair understanding of the psychology of people and his nature, I have learned to deal with people of all kinds.

    You are right in using your time for more important things.

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  29. I think honesty and integrity is rare these says.So, for the few people who have proved true to their word, stick with them.For the others, well, let karma take care of them.

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  30. I know the feeling that someone seems good to work with at the start with all these fancy words and profile, but it stops there- words. I admire that you don't want to spend your time shaming other people. I agree, for me that promotes bad vibes. I'd rather work on bettering myself

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  31. Over time, I'd learned to choose my friends. I still meet abusive and toxic people along the way but I cut the ties even before the hurt goes further.

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  32. A very thoughful article. We all are human and human are complex...to understand and to predict. So, we do face this kind of dilemma at times

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