Our love story started in 1992. School was almost over when he took notice of me. We've been studying in the same school since we were in kindergarten but we were never aware of each other's existence. We crossed path when we were in junior high school. I transferred to his class and we became classmates. But it was only the last two months of school year when we got acquainted. He was my boyfriend for 12 years before we decided to tie the knot in 2004. We've been together now for 25 years. So, is there really such a thing as forever? How do we do it? Let me share with you our secrets to a long lasting relationship.

1. Communicate but learn how to spend quiet time together

I'm the talker. I could go all day telling him stories about anything under the sun. But when it comes to discussing things that really matter, he is very objective. We engage in serious conversation once in a while. Most of the time, it's kulitan. 

We also enjoy spending quiet time together. We just sit or lie beside each other. Hold hands. Play games in our iPad. Cuddle. No talking. Feeling the warmth of his body is more than enough. Hearing his heartbeat as I lay my head on his chest is like a thousand coded words of love that only we understand.

2. Create new memories

When was the last time you did something for the first time? When was the last time you went on an adventure? When was the last time you went outside your comfort zone? 

We will all grow old and we might not be physically capable of doing the things we wished we did when we were younger. While you still can, create memories. Do not live a life of regrets and what ifs. Go places. Skydive. Cruise. Indulge. 

Always have something to look forward to and something to reminisce. 

3. Be crazy.

I am often asked, "doesn't it get boring?" Well, I must admit that there was a phase in our relationship when we felt like we were enduring the monotony of our daily life. That is when communication came in handy. We looked for ways to amuse ourselves. We changed the routine. We sometimes make fun of each other :)

4. Never stop courting your wife.

The "kilig" moments should not end when she said yes. When was the last time you asked her out for a date? I still feel the butterflies in my stomach whenever me and hubby are going on a date after all these years. We would sometimes meet up in a coffee shop and pretend that he is still courting me. 

5. Flirt with your husband.

They say life changes after marriage. Responsibilities, kids and the struggle to keep everything in order put out the spark in your relationship. Sex becomes obligatory as the years pass by. Flirting with your husband can bring back the excitement in your marriage. Whether he admits it or not, he is longing for some flirting and teasing. Don't let him look for it elsewhere.

6. Don't share everything on social media.

It is okay to share stories and photos that will inspire other couples. But never use social media to speak ill of your partner just because you are angry. Also, don't involve other people who are merely social media acquaintances if you are having problems in your relationship. Try resolving issues between the two of you only. If you need help, talk to someone who you both respect and believe will give advice that will enlighten you.

7. Honor your vows.

You promised each other with God as your witness to be together until death. Never let parting ways be an option. Never entertain the possibility of bailing out when the marriage goes through a rough patch. Make sure you understand the sanctity of marriage. Fulfill your vows and always pray.  


  1. I really enjoyed reading this article - I love your honesty and you have very wise words! I could totally resonate with everything you said, it was a great reminder :)

  2. Definitely DON'T share everything on social media. Some things should be kept private.

  3. All of these are spot on tips. I am often shocked at how many people put their marital problems on social media in the heat of the moment. Not a good idea.

  4. Yes to all of these. Hubby and I have also been together since high school, so I'm speaking from experience when I agree with these. Something that has always surprised me is when people put their issues on social media for all to see. We all have issues, marriage is a lot of work. But it's something to keep protected from others that you don't really know.

  5. I think it is important to keep dating your spouse after you get married. Date nights are a great way to reconnect especially after you have children.

  6. This is so true. My husband and I don't get a lot of dates because of his crazy work schedule, but we do send the kids upstairs at 8 PM and watch TV together and talk until 11.

    1. It must be more difficult to have quiet time when there are kids. But I would really love to have at least one.

  7. These are all great tips and I agree, it's important to make memories and also knowing how to communicate. Date nights are really important.

  8. This is a great list and a great reminder! We often take things for granted and in doing so relationships tend to get boring. I really need to see this today! Thank you.

  9. I love your post. Your tips are great reminders that long lasting relationship takes effort and time. Thanks for sharing.

  10. 25 years!!! You guys are such couple goals! And everything that you've stated is so true!! Loved your photos, so cute!

  11. I agree with being crazy and creating new memories. It gives spice to any relationships. Congrats to you both!

  12. Aw your love story goes back to the year I was born! I love the first tip, time together and apart are both important!

  13. Your first rule is my favorite. Communication is key but the WAY you communicate and learn to set boundaries on the communication is huge.

  14. Congrats on a successful marriage. Thank you for sharing these helpful tips. Communication is really important for every relationship.

  15. Aw haha you two are so adorable. I'm happy that you two have been lasting forever! Recently got married and these are some great tips to be reminded.

  16. I love your tips. Praying is the favorite one for me. I need that spiritual grounding in everything I do. Congrats on finding your true love and staying with him, honoring your vows. :)

  17. I'm a talker too but I also like to have some quiet time for myself. Thanks for sharing the tips and your story. I believe respect, understanding and communication are important aspects in any relationship. I agree with you on flirting - to keep the spark alive.


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